Now that you’ve understood the importance of self love, and the careful consideration of the qualities you need in a life partner, it’s only fair to now talk about how to go about the business of dating especially in a digital age.
Before the disruption Covid-19 caused to our everyday lives, a lot of folks already found themselves seeking love online, and for those who relied on meeting people in social gatherings, they might find themselves having to make the shift to unfamiliar online territory. But fear not as dating is quite possible for the most part in a digital age, and I’m here to share how you can go about it.

Dating Online

Dating online doesn’t just mean joining a dating website or app. While these are spaces specifically dedicated to seeking a partner, there are still other ways to find a potential partner. But before I go into those, I’d like to touch on how best to approach dating sites and apps.

When working on your online profile, it’s important to use it as an opportunity to share who you are and what you’re seeking in a life partner. In the description of yourself, include your values as well as the things you’re passionate about. This could read something like this;

 “I’m a PHD student studying at the University of Abuja. I’m currently working on research into how we as humans can take responsibility for our planet and climate change. I currently live with two of my close friends and I rely on them, and they me, for moral and educational support. They have become my accountability partners. In my spare time, I love to run, read and visit friends and family etc.”

With these lines, you’ve managed to share some of your values and passion. The same would go for the section as to what you’re looking for so you’re clear right from the get go, and are able to weed out matches who do not quite share in your core values. For example, your description could read;

“I am looking for a serious relationship with someone who shares similar values such as reliability, accountability etc.”

Creating a dating profile that speaks to who you are and what you want, will ensure that you have a reference point when deciding on whether to take a match further down the relationship route.

And if you find that dating sites and apps is not your thing, that’s ok. There are other ways to meet people online while going about your everyday business. An authentic way to do this is to engage in conversations that you’re truly interested in. Take for example, if you thoroughly enjoyed reading a book, you could tweet about it, share it on a Facebook or LinkedIn status. You might find other folks who enjoyed the book having something to add to the conversation or that someone else has started that conversation and you too have something to add to it. By engaging in your passion on online platforms, you could naturally discover folks who you might take a liking to and vice versa based on what you engage in, which speaks to who you are as an individual. I’m sure you’ve stumbled across those viral tweets of folks saying how they met on twitter and now they’re married with kids.

It is important to mention that the digital world isn’t devoid of deceit, so you must take care when sharing very personal information. And if you do decide to meet in real life, make sure you do so in a public space and setting, ensuring to inform your close friends and family of your whereabouts and activities just to be safe.

Dating IRL

If you find that the online world isn’t quite for you, there are ways in which you can meet folks in real life even in a digital age. If you’re single and happy but also open to finding a life partner, then it’s good to let those around you know. Your friends, your family, or even work colleagues. Basically the people you tend to spend a lot of time around. Chances are that in spending time with you, they are able to pick up on your character and would know the sort of individual that might be a fit for you should they encounter them, given the values you already display.

If you find that the online world isn’t quite for you, there are ways in which you can meet folks in real life even in a digital age. If you’re single and happy but also open to finding a life partner, then it’s good to let those around you know. Your friends, your family, or even work colleagues. Basically the people you tend to spend a lot of time around. Chances are that in spending time with you, they are able to pick up on your character and would know the sort of individual that might be a fit for you should they encounter them, given the values you already display.

In Summary

Put yourself out there, online or in real life but don’t let finding a partner be your only focus. You must continue to work on your personal growth, ensuring you give yourself a lot of the self loving I talked about a couple of weeks ago. Because the last thing you want to happen is for you to lose yourself in your potential partner.